Raise your hand if you know you need to spend more time on self care!!
We all know we need to do it, but something it can feel like there are not enough hours in the day to get everything done, let alone anything WE want to do. I used to feel like this and what I am going to say is that there is time. You don’t have to “find it” or “make it” you just need to CLAIM IT.
As we do with our energy, we give our time away to everyone and everything else. We’ve been taught that the more we do for other people the more we are “worth.” No wonder soo many women, especially mothers are on the edge of breakdown or burnout.
WHAT I BELIEVE
I believe that the most important things you can do is to practice inner self care and that starts with time. If you don’t claim your time how are you ever going to fill up your cup.
When you claim your time back you are saying to yourself, others and the universe that YOU matter. That what you want and need matters.
STEPS TO CLAIMING YOUR TIME
- You have to decide to put yourself first. You have to say and believe you are worthy.
- Figure how much time you need. This can be per day or per week.
- Free write a list of stuff you want to do. Dream BIG
- Then assign how much time you WOULD LIKE for each.
- Look at your calendar (important to do after you have been dreaming) and list everything out you have to do.
- Examples: Laundry, washing face, making Dr. appointments, Grocery shopping, etc
- Compare the two list. Where do you have time? What can you put in where. And it may not be everything or for as much time as you want..
- What can you delegate, what can you NOT do, what can you shift. I promise you there is something you can cut out.
- Can you get up 30 minutes earlier?
- Average adult screen time on phone is 4 hours and this was pre pandemic. If you spend 3 hours watching TV, maybe you cut that back to 2. I get that people like to watch TV or scroll as an escape or to wind down but does it fill you up??? Did you put that on your list?
- Set Boundaries, delegate // I know this is where I really struggle as a mom. Having those conversations with people I love can feel impossible. Again we are taught that we shouldn’t ask for the support we need. We are brought up to do it all by ourselves and HELP is a 4 letter word. But its not.
- Finally you’ll want to test and adjust. See how it goes, how it feels. Also recognize that things will change. Just like the earth and the moon we go through seasons. Summer may look different than fall when your kids have more activities. Some days you might do it all and some you might not, but consistency is key.
I know it may seem overwhelming but its only after we sit down, get clear on how we want to feel and what we need to fill us up that the magic happens.
So I’ve created the “Claim Your Joy” PDF. In it you will find an outline of the above steps as well as journaling prompts to get you started, a calendar, and some ideas on how to delegate or ask for support.
XOXO – Cherin
